The Myth of UK Integration by Kailash Puri

Author:Kailash Puri [Puri, Kailash]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781849951975
Publisher: Whittles Publishing

Chapter Seven

Girls and boys go out to play

Teenage pregnancies, single parent families and divorce are all commonplace. As we have seen, family life and the security and support that it offers, is under threat not only in the Asian community but in all society. Behind the closed doors of even the most genteel families there is often misery and violence. Shocking statistics suggest there are hundreds of thousands of paedophiles and child molesters in the UK alone and the debate goes on – should they be treated or locked up? As people from child protection agencies and, indeed, agony aunts know only too well, so many of the abusers are themselves victims of abuse in their youth. Teenage years are difficult enough for young people without the added turmoil of cultural tensions and differences; for the new generation of Asians – now third and fourth – this is a daily occurrence and the same can be said for all the other minority ethnic groups who find themselves in Britain.

Then, of course, each and every group can be broken down into male and female with the females often coming worse off – but it is not always the case. As youngsters of both sexes move into their teens, and possibly even earlier for some, boyfriends and girlfriends become important. Instinctively they will be attracted by potential partners from their own ethnic group but, when thrown into mixed settings such as universities and colleges, inevitably cross-cultural relationships will develop.

Asian men are highly attracted to white women and there are numerous letters from married Asian women in despair as their husbands openly flaunt their English mistresses; one complained to me that her husband had a child by his lover who then started attending the same school as his legitimate children. The attraction for some men is the apparent ‘sophistication’ as they see it of Western women; they are regarded as being more modern and gradually the men themselves may even adopt English mannerism, styles and dress.

But men are not always the guilty parties. Many women write asking what they should do as they have fallen in love with a white Englishman and cannot bear to be apart from him.

The important point to remember is the background. In the western world young people are exposed to the media – glossy magazines discussing every possible aspect of relationships and the TV, which for most young people has supplanted the traditional advice they once might have received from parents. As a result children are growing up faster and losing their innocence sooner. This is not the place to debate the rights and wrongs of that state of affairs I would just say that growing up ‘too fast’ is not the blessing young people often take it too be.

In India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka probably 80% of the population still live in villages where life is static, certainly unsophisticated in the western sense of the word, and where traditions and values remain as strong as they were a century ago.

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